People are stuff, too.
Just let that thought sink in.
People can also be clutter. People can linger in your life like a ragged sweater or pair of socks with holes on the heels. You know you should let go, but…
I absolutely do not mean that today you should drop everyone in your life who annoys you. Frankly, those annoying people might be the best life teachers you can find.
What I do mean is take a look around. What’s the state of your relationship(s) with the people in your life?
As an introvert I need little interaction with other people on a daily basis. I’m perfectly content to go about my life with minimal talking, a few good friends, and a small circle of amazing connections. A perfect day for me is almost always spent alone. And a wonderful dinner with a friend or two in the evening is a great way to end a day.
I talk with the good friends infrequently, speak with the circle of connections even less often; yet I am confident that were we all in the same room, the level of connection would still be there. Unfortunately, I would be trying to hide in a corner with a book. There would be too many people and, after the initial excitement of seeing everyone again, I’d be drained and ready to leave.
And THAT’S with people I enjoy spending time with. If it’s big events (like a concert or conference,) I’m depleted a whole lot faster, and take longer to become reinvigorated. As a result, I’ve learned to love being alone.
There have been (still are, and probably always will be) an annoying person or two or three in my life. More specifically, I mean someone who – no matter what- always seems to get right under your skin in the most painful sort of way. They’re adept at pointing out your flaws, or maintaining their superiority at all costs. Or, you just don’t seem to have anything in common with them.
Of course, it’s all a matter of perspective, isn’t it?
The person who you think points out your flaws may feel they’re being helpful by saving you from embarrassment or failure. The person who you think insists on maintaining superiority may be struggling with a crippling self-hatred that’s hidden under the weight of challenges you know nothing about. And if you think you have nothing in common with someone, perhaps you just haven’t looked far or deep enough.
Today, change your perspective on the people in your life. Find some time for yourself, light a candle, play quiet music. Sit quietly and just breathe until you’re ready to proceed. Then think about one maybe two people. Is it possible to alter your perception? You can’t change them, might as well try to change how you think or feel.
And it doesn’t have to be a huge adjustment.
A subtle shift is all it takes to change your world. And in changing your world, you change the world all around you. If you find there is someone who no longer enhances your life, consider the course of action to take as you move into your future. Above all, be gentle and true.
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