How do you move on with your life after letting go? The answer is different for everyone, yet here are some simple suggestions to help ease the way.
Be gentle with yourself. Yes, yes, you want to get to the top of whatever mountain you’re climbing: corporate, entrepreneurial, athletic – whatever. They’re all mountains, they’re just called different names. Regardless of the mountain you’re climbing, and the thing you’ve just accomplished or let go of, stop what you’re doing and look around. Take time to notice where you’re at in this process. Breathe. Forgive yourself for taking so darned long to get to this point, or for feeling like you’ve trampled on others to achieve these things, or for whatever it is. It’s OK. You’re human, and it ain’t easy to be you or me or anyone else.
Pamper yourself. This is not the same as being gentle. Pampering in this case refers to taking care of yourself. Have the bubble bath or the extra slice of pie. Do nice things for yourself. Make those nice things rewards, or just because you can. Treat yourself like you want others to treat you. I got a two-year-old yet new-to-me car in August and, after 13 years of a basic entry-level car, I moved up to a new level of comfort. I have heated seats. Power windows. Heck, power everything: the car knows when it’s raining and turns on both the lights and the window wipers! And I feel totally pampered while driving.
Take a baby step. If you’re not sure which direction you’re going to head, take one tiny step. Fumbling around a bit is to be expected when starting a new chapter of life; heck I fumble around a bit every Monday as I get used to being at work again. Regardless, take the one step and see where it leads. And always stop along the way to check your progress.
Poet Robert Frost said, “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.” Take that step, life will go on, it always does.
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